On Addiction to Porn

Questions: I am addicted to porn, but I know that porn is all made up. I watch porn just to gain some fantasy. In fact, I really don't see any impact of "porn bad-effects" to my life. Is it okay if I still watch it? Because, its just for entertainment value, and it makes me happy?

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Dear FReAK,

Firstly, we need to see the objective of the porn that you consume. Porn movie, for example, is part of the entertainment industry, where the aim of the visual interpretation is to entertain its targeted audience through a series of moving images. Some people might consider watching porn as a negative thing to do, because to them, sexual activity should be kept privately, and that sexual activities should also be conducted between married couples.

So conservatively, non-marital sexual activities is culturally internalized to be condemned by religious authority. This tend to drag individual sexual pleasure activities, such as: watching porn, as encouragement of non-marital sexual activities to those who watch it. Therefore, there is huge stigma towards porn industry. 

Going back to your case, where you don’t feel there’s bad effect from watching porn, well of course it’s your right to watch it. Because, sometimes, it’s not only about entertainment, sometimes you can take it up as a media for education. Sex is an abstract concept that one needs to explore carefully, in order to enjoy it.

Many experienced sexual-based problems due to their lack of knowledge on sex. But, one thing to keep in mind is that: sex should be pleasurable, in consent, should be experienced once you are truly ready (in age and emotions), not with underage individuals, and most importantly sex should be SAFE! 

I have to admit that, yes, some porn can give negative effects and sometimes people don’t realize those effects and still feel okay with it. For instance, many porn shows negative scenes of rape, non-consensual relationship, under-age relationship, etc. These scenes must be filtered critically! One major sign to know if there’s a negative effect from watching porn, is to know if you have a dependency on porn or not and how you manage your conscience towards unethical porn. There are some people that really enjoy the unlimited fantasy that porn movies can trigger, as consequence, they tend to find it hard in differentiating the reality of sex from what they saw in the porn movies. This, of course, is a BAD effect because chances of imitating the negative scenes and inflicting pain towards others, is possible. And if conducted without consent and to underage individuals, is a criminal act.

Another bad effect you need to take note from watching porn, might be an over addiction behavior towards it. If one finds it hard to live without porn, and that they cant get aroused if they don't consume porn, is also a sign that you need to watch out for. But as long as you don't get overly-addicted to it, then it should be fine (unless there are more signs that I need to know).

So, I hope you can still enjoy the things you like without being overly dependent on it and being guilty about it (as long as it doesn't inflict pain upon others). And to always be cautious and critical. You have the right to explore and give pleasure to yourself, but with a degree of high awareness. 

 

Freakily yours,

K.


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